There isn’t time – so brief is life – for bickerings, apologies, heartburnings, callings to account. there is only time for loving – & but an instant, so to speak, for that.
This Ted Talk is about what makes a good life. Robert Waldinger states that we think that its make money or be famous but that it’s actually social connections – our family, friends and community relationships that make us happier and healthier.
How strange, then, to see such anger and great discontent in some of the world’s richest nations.
Virtually all the world’s major religions teach that diligent work in the service of others is our highest nature and thus lies at the center of a happy life.
The more we are one with the rest of humanity, the better we feel.
Everyone has something valuable to share. We should start each day by consciously asking ourselves, “What can I do today to appreciate the gifts that others offer me?” We need to make sure that global brotherhood and oneness with others are not just abstract ideas that we profess, but personal commitments that we mindfully put into practice.
Indeed, what unites the two of us in friendship and collaboration is not shared politics or the same religion. It is something simpler: a shared belief in compassion, in human dignity, in the intrinsic usefulness of every person to contribute positively for a better and more meaningful world.
One of the most striking things about the current horrible, depressing, terrifying dialog in the US around the Presidential election is that everyone is saying the same exact thing. Each side thinks the other is idiotic or worse. Each side accuses the other of plotting destruction of the world as we know it. Each side has “proof” and each side wishes that the other side would just go away. The only thing that changes is the preferred candidate’s name.
There is only one thing that you cannot do and you cannot do it under any circumstance: You cannot imagine that you are any different than the person you hate.
But, riddle me this: Have you ever lied to get your way? Have you ever taken something that was not yours? Have you ever ignored the consequences of your actions for selfish purposes? Have you ever hidden the truth because it might get you in trouble? Have you ever knowingly done something to hurt someone else? I have done all these things. While the degree and scale are vastly, unspeakably different, you (and I, of course) are actually capable of what you (and I) purport to despise. We are made of the same material as those we hate. If we had been subject to the same causes and conditions, we might have turned out the same. This is not a cure-all, obviously. But it is a start.
Just as it is primed for dehumanization, the internet is also primed for intimacy.
Every act is either an expression of love or a call for it.
Loving Kindness meditation practice to help you feel more connected.