I’ve finally finished this book. It was amazing and I can’t say enough good things about it. I’ll probably read it again in a couple of months to refresh my memory on the amazingness. There are three parts to this book, here are my notes from Part 2 on Success.
…unbridled personal egotism blinds a man to the realitites around him; more and more he comes to live in a world of his own imagination…
The ego thinnks…I’m special, I’m better, the rules don’t apply to me
Always Stay a Student
It takes a special kind of humility to grasp that you know less, even as you know and grasp more and more
If you’re not still learning, you’re already dying
Learn from everyone and everything. From the people you beat, and the people who beat you, from the people you dislike, even form your supposed enemies. At every step and every juncture in life, there is the opportunity to learn– and even if the lesson is purely remedial, we must not let ego block us from hearing it again.
Change your mind. Change your surroundings.
Don’t Tell Yourself a Story
Myth becomes myth not in the living but in the retelling – David Maraniss
…the deceptively small things — that was responsible for the…transformation and victory
…we must resist the desire to pretent that everything unfolded exactly as we planned
The way to do really big things seems to be to start with deceptively small things
Make it about the work and the princicples behind it — not about a glorious vision that makes a good headline
A great desitny, Seneca reminds us, is great slavery
What’s Important to You?
…we’re never happy with what we have, we want what others have too. We want to have more than everyone else
All of us waste precious life doing things we don’t like to prove ourselves to people we don’t respect and to get things we don’t want
…we unconsciously pick up the pace to keep up with others. But what if different people are running for different reasons? What if there is more than one race going on?
Only you know the race that you’re running
If you don’t know how much you need, the default easily becomes: more
Ego rejects trade-offs. Why compromise? Ego wants it all
Entitlement, Control, and Paranoia
Entitlement assumes: This is mine. I’ve earned it. At the same time, entitlement nickels and dimes other people because it can’t conceive of valuing another person’s time as highly as it’s own.
It all must be done my way…It can become paralyzing perfectionism
Paranoia thinks, I can’t trust anyone. I’m in this totally by myself and for myself. It says, I’m surrounded by fools.
He who indulges in empty fears earns himself real fears – Seneca
Beware of the Disease of Me
For us, it’s beginning to think that we’re better, that we’re special, that our problems and experiences are so incredibly different from everyone elses that no one could possibly understand.
…we never earn the right to be greedy or to pursue our interests at the expense of everyone else
Play for the name on the front of the jersey, he says, and they’ll remember the name on the back
Meditate on the Immensity
Ego tells us that meaning comes from activity, that being the center of attention is the only way to matter
Yes we are small. We are also a piece of this great universe and a process
Creativity is a matter of receptiveness and recognition. This cannot happen if you’re convinced the world revolves around you
Remind yourself how pointless it is to rage and fight and try and one-up those around you
Maintain Your Sobriety
Can you really outwork and outrun everyone forever?
We have no patience for waiting. We’re high on getting high up the ranks.
Don’t be deceived by recognition you have gotten or the amount of money in your bank account
…if you want to live a happy life, live hidden
Most successful people are people you’ve never heard of